Building on the ‘Christmas Truce’ in the New Year

We want to wish all of our readers a Happy New Year!

In our last post, we highlighted the benefits of forging a truce with your ex-spouse or significant other in order to create a good holiday atmosphere for the children. Essentially, if entire armies could do so, you should be able to do so too.

We hope that our suggestions were fruitful. As we begin a new year, it is not far-fetched to have such a truce continue. We say this because it is very common for people to suggest and begin New Year’s resolutions. Some pledge to eat better, some commit to exercising regularly, and others promise to be more organized. For those in tumultuous relationships, a good New Year’s resolution would be to have a better relationship (regarding co-parenting) would be good.

We understand that adhering to this type of resolution is not going to be easy, and your feelings will not change overnight. But just like any weight loss program or exercise regimen, it is all about taking things one day at a time, and one instance at a time. Basically, if a person works on your nerves or is unwilling to compromise on a particular day, just remember that tomorrow is another day and another opportunity to make things better.

In the meantime, most people trying to effectuate change must have a coach or advocate on their side to answer questions and keep them motivated. In a sense, an experienced family law attorney can fulfill this role. Indeed, a lawyer is not a therapist, but he or she can give you the advice and direction you need to be successful.